Most couples arrive in my coaching world with similar complaints; they are arguing a lot and they want it to stop! Stopping your arguments sounds sensible and obvious on paper. But in reality, trying to negotiate delicate topics when you feel lonely, raw, frustrated, angry and touch-starved is like trying to build IKEA furniture in the dark, with your ex giving directions. Connection Comes First, Then Communication When your body feels safe with your partner, your brain can a

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Recently, I have been sharing about my weekly Zoom 'date' with my Dad; interviewing him for a book. This special time that I created in...

What does it mean to be triggered? It's a term that gets thrown around a lot But what does it actually mean? And are we a slave to our...