So who am I?
Growing up, my friends often asked me for advice about their relationships, but when it was my turn, I messed it up. I fell for someone I met at a bar (remember when that happened??), we connected deeply, had a lot of passion, and incredible fun together. We once drove 16 hours on a whim to visit friends, had a meal with them and drove right back!
There was no happy ending, though. When things got tough, we didn’t work through them as adults. Some things we never said, and some things should never have been said. We often stuck to our own opinions even when they drove us apart. So even though I saw a future with him, when I had a chance to leave for a job, I took it.
That’s when I first understood that if you want to make a relationship work, love alone just isn't enough.
I’m Sharlene Halbert, a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, and Wedding Celebrant originally from Australia, now based in Barcelona since 2009.
With a diverse background spanning three continents, many cities and being a 'serial re-inventor' of myself professionally —Occupational Therapist, Simply Music Piano Coach, Music Education and Brain Development educator, Community Advocate, and small business owner of several times over —I bring a wealth of experience to my coaching practice.
My journey has been fuelled by a passion for understanding relationships from a young age. Inspired by my parents’ enduring marriage, I found my calling in Relationship Coaching after years of searching for my next fulfilling career.
With a background in Occupational Therapy and Child Development, a deep understanding of all Life Stages and their impact, Life and Relationship Coaching, and my own experience of life through it's many challenges, and relationships that always ended with love, I specialise in helping couples navigate the complexities of all life stages, from parenthood to empty nest syndrome, and beyond and how these things impact their relationship with their partner.
I'm dedicated to supporting couples to build strong, healthy relationships so they can thrive through the stresses of relationship challenges and the other areas of life that impact the relationship.
I support them to find clarity, understanding, and use tools, strategies and frameworks to foster deeper connection and intimacy, improve communication skills, and develop emotional resilience.
I'm also passionate about helping couples start out in their journey together as a Wedding Celebrant/Officiant at destination weddings in Spain. I love being at the beginning of their future together, creating something special and meaningful for their ceremony so they have a clear future that they can continue to re-create as they move forward together.
I'd love to support you both in navigating this journey together, empowering you to create the relationship you desire, no matter the stage of life you’re in. It's never too early to start!
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What is Strategic Intervention?Strategic Intervention is a cross-disciplinary movement dedicated to increasing connection, communication, happiness, and understanding in all people. SI (short for Strategic Intervention) is used worldwide by Life Coaches, Therapists, Doctors, Psychologists, Teachers, Business Consultants, and COmmunity leaders. The goal of the Strategic Interventionist is to create happiness, understanding, and harmony through helping individuals and groups to harness their inner strengths, group insights, and creative and systemic thinking. A Strategic Interventionist combines the talents of Life Coaching with the art of deep spiritual understanding and dynamic teaching skills. Having an Occupational Therapy (physical and neurological rehabilitation, babies and children with developmental delays, people with disabilities, workers’ compensation and Occ Health and Safety and working with all life stages) and teaching background, including teaching music to families, along with experience of living on 3 continents and speaking a second language (Spanish) has been the perfect combination of experiences, along with my training in Strategic Intervention, to help me embrace this style of coaching and have a more holistic view of people, families and relationships.
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Where did Strategic Intervention come from?Strategic Intervention (also known as SI) is a project dedicated to extracting the most practical and effective forms of strategic action and communication from a variety of disciplines: Ericksonian therapy, strategic family therapy, Human Needs Psychology, organizational psychology, neurolinguistics, psychology of influence, strategic studies, traditions of diplomacy and negotiation, game theory, and others. The term “Strategic Intervention" was coined by Anthony Robbins, Cloe Madanes, and Mark Peysha to describe their change work. Mark Peysha has further developed Strategic Intervention as an interdisciplinary framework and movement. Strategic Intervention exists wherever human beings use extraordinary skill to bring about positive personal and cultural change. Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Gandhi are examples of masterful Strategic Interventionists who transcend the particularities of religion, culture, institution, job description, or political philosophy (as a Strategic Interventionist should.) What distinguishes SI from other strategic studies is the belief that certain holistic solutions “snap into place" when more people's needs are met, expressed, and elevated. These solutions actually deliver more benefit for less effort. Anthony Robbins, Cloe Madanes, Mark Peysha and Magali Peysha are the founders of Strategic Intervention Coaching. They have been powerfully influenced by the great insights and works of Victor Frankl and Milton Erickson's creative breakthroughs in human intervention. Strategic Intervention is also grounded in the work of the Gregory Bateson group at the Mental Research Institute, which in the late 1950's originated the new paradigm of interactional and systemic studies, which became a watershed in the development of disciplines such as game theory, cybernetics, neurolinguistics, organizational psychology, management psychology, and dozens of other systemic disciplines. The goal of Strategic Intervention is to integrate the core insights of these traditions into a method of practical strategic action. SI encompasses strategies that span from the belief systems and emotional patterns within an individual to individual relationships, group dynamics, organizational and cultural interventions. A trained SI coach navigates these different arenas with ease. Click here to read the mission statement of Robbins-Madanes SI coaching training.
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How is SI Coaching different from other types of Life Coaching?A Certified Strategic Intervention Coach has gone through intensive study and training in strategies to handle the whole range of human needs and life challenges. Most life coaching training focuses on one type of result such as goals, beliefs, or steps while SI helps address the wide range of human potential and obstacles. Strategic Interventionists are trained to identify every type of obstacle that may be holding a client back (such as their internal beliefs, their communication patterns, their relationships, their life stages) and prescribe practical strategies to create results in each of these areas. SI Coaches provide practical frameworks for the client to understand their options, and then offers them strategies and actions for bringing about the changes they want. Where some traditional life coaching methods focus on “the client discovering their own solutions,” Strategic Intervention Coaches help clients take practical action to transform their experience of life. SI encompasses goal setting, communication skill-building, relationship work, high performance, meaning/purpose discovery, and uses creative modalities to help clients put their dreams into action. The SI Client learns about his or her needs, triggers, key relationships, safe problems, and expands their ability to think creatively, see potential in every part of life, expand and deepen all their relationships, and overcome the fears which have limited their joy and progress.
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How is SI Coaching different from therapy?Psychotherapy and counselling generally work within a medical framework: identifying and diagnosing dysfunctions and prescribing treatment. SI Coaching starts with you, now, and how to take practical steps to make progress towards the goals, relationships, and experience you want. Strategic Intervention begins with the belief that the solutions that the client wants are available to them right now, and greater well-being and happiness comes from the ability to take smart actions in life. SI Coaching is not meant to replace psychotherapy – it is a distinctly practical approach to supporting clients in the decisions and actions that will support their goals and fulfilment in life.
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What can I expect from my Strategic Interventionist Coach?Your SI Coach will usually begin by learning all about you – your desired results as well as your highest priorities and closest relationships. By truly understanding your world, your coach will be an effective advocate for the results, relationships, and life that you desire. You will find that this system of coaching is a very customized experience. You will be heard, understood, and supported, and you’ll be presented with a unique perspective and a series of strategies to improve your life. Clients gain a greater ability to see the “big picture” of their life, find and improve key relationships, take daily actions that increase their joy, and stop the patterns of fear and resistance that hold them back from living a full life.
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How is Strategic Intervention applied worldwide?Strategic Intervention is a cross-disciplinary movement dedicated to increasing connection, communication, happiness and understanding in all people. It is being used with people of all ages to create greater understanding and personal success. In the medical field, thousands of doctors, nurses, care providers, and hospital administrators are using SI to improve the healing process for patients and their families. In industry, SI strategies are being used by managers, business owners, public relation representatives, entrepreneurs, and leaders to create understanding, personal responsibility, team cohesion, and higher standards for achievement. In education, teachers are using SI to better understand, connect with, and teach students of all ages. The goal is to create happiness, understanding and harmony through helping individuals and groups to harness their inner strength, group insights, and creative and systemic thinking. A Strategic Interventionist combines the talents of Life Coaching with the art of deep spiritiual understanding and dynamic teaching skills
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DisclaimerI am not directly affiliated with Tony Robbins, Cloé Madanes or any of the founders of Strategic Intervention, nor do I own the name. I use the strategies, tools and techniques as a trained Strategic Intervention Life and Relationship Coach to provide my clients with the best opportunities to transform their lives.