Most couples arrive in my coaching world with similar complaints; they are arguing a lot and they want it to stop! Stopping your arguments sounds sensible and obvious on paper. But in reality, trying to negotiate delicate topics when you feel lonely, raw, frustrated, angry and touch-starved is like trying to build IKEA furniture in the dark, with your ex giving directions. Connection Comes First, Then Communication When your body feels safe with your partner, your brain can actually listen....

What is committed change in a relationship, what gets in the way and what actions can move you forward with no possibility of going back

Is it healthy to argue in front of your kids? The answer is important not only for you but their mental health and future relationships