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Traditional couples' therapy models are outdated
When you think back to when you first got into your relationship, you were doing things with and and saying things about and to each other that created a feeling of love, safety and intimacy
Over time, intimacy fades, resentment builds, and you wonder if your relationship might be broken, or if there is something wrong with you, your partner, your relationship or all three!
Our relationships are important - in fact, your intimate relationship is one of the most important relationships you will ever have. I would assert that our intimate relationships are an opportunity to overcome patterns and traumas from the past - and doing it together is the most powerful way.
Many couples believe that improving their communication, and even having someone to meditate their arguments is the first step to improving their relationship.
It feels hard, heavy and there is often a fear of change and the work that will be required. But not changing and growing will get you the same as you have had, and the continued downhill slide into loneliness, separation, feeling unloved, unheard and ultimately wondering if the relationship will survive (or the final step - separation/ divorce)
The truth is, the traditional models for improving your relationship don't work.
Trying to resolve conflict and shift your communication starts with feeling more connected and appreciated. When you have that, it is easier to WANT to improve your communication, and to find ways to do that together. You start working as a team on your challenges, rather than fighting each other.
That's why I created my 21-Day Deeper Connection Challenge
Every day, you will receive a brief email with a simple, daily habit you can build into your relationship in just 10 minutes, to create greater connection and intimacy
You will notice how your closeness grows, and the desire to have more in your relationship, including improved communication is massively impacted.
Not all change and growth is hard and heavy. Sometimes, it's also fun and playful!
Join my 21-Day Challenge and bring back connection and intimacy, no matter where you are at in your relationship.
You don't need to be in a really difficult place to benefit from this Challenge. All you need is 10 minutes a day, and an intention to bring back connection and intimacy. Wherever you are at, the perfect time is NOW!
Check out what others are saying:
What we loved most was how thoughtful and easy the tasks were. It makes you realise how little things can help improve your and your partner's day
Pam & Pol, Barcelona
It's fun! There were great prompts. I loved how thoughtful and easy the tasks were and that my husband responded to most of what I initiated!
Marina, Barcelona
The act of appreciating has been very rewarding; our interactions got better and everything got better. I started doing it with other people in my life too, and it was like the world started opening with people just being kind of happier when they're seen and appreciated.
J, Barcelona