Relationship TROUBLES?


The success of marriage (long term partnerships) comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they inevitably realize they married’   John Fischer

The nature of long term relationships is being redefined.  With so many people divorcing/separating, the option to do so and the not needing to stay in relationships for financial reasons as much, the idea of a long term relationship is changing.  However, no matter how long it lasts, the ending of a relationship is painful and difficult for the majority of us.  We have ideas of what we ‘want’, we are sure we ‘know’ the other person and we live with poor quality relationships that do not support our happiness, growth or fulfillment.


In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, the grounds for marriage    Robert Anderson

We begin with passion and love, with an idea sold to us that this is how it will always be - happy ever after.  Very soon, however, we realise that relationships take work,  circumstances change, we change.  Before long we are settling for sexless, passionless relationships that are often more like living with friends or siblings.  Even worse, we treat our partner with disrespect, or even contempt in a way that we would never accept from or do to other people or friends.

Since the dawn of time, humans have been in pairs.  And whether you choose to marry, to commit long term or whether you choose various relationships simultaneous, we all eventually discover the challenges of sharing your life with someone who, if they are your opposite, there is spark, attraction, passion, however that means frustrations and challenges.  The flip side, however, is that if your partner is too similar to you, there can be no polarity and spark, attraction and passion dies.

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Many marriages (long term relationships) would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.        Zig Ziglar

I can help you learn to see your partner and yourself from a different perspective that enables you to find your commonalities, to reconnect you with what you fell in love with in the first place, to deepen your connections and bring back passion and love. And you can find more of what brings you joy, happiness and fulfillment for your self and your partner.